3.29.2008

Great Love

Losing a loved one has always been difficult. Moving on to a new life when you are so used to sharing it with another is a great challenge. This story revel on how to cope with life after a loved one was taken from you and how we should cherish the people we have now in our lives... before it's too late.


Here's to T-bone steaks, yellow roses and friendship.

"I walked into the grocery store not particularly interested in buying groceries. I wasn't hungry. The pain of losing my husband of 7 years was still too raw. And this grocery store held so many sweet memories.

He often came with me and almost every time he'd pretend to go off and look for something special. I knew what he was up to. I'd always spot him walking down the aisle with the three yellow roses in his hands.

He knew I loved yellow roses. With a heart filled with grief, I only wanted to buy my few items and leave, but even grocery shopping was different since he had passed on.

Shopping for one took time, a little more thought than it had for two.

Standing by the meat, I searched for the perfect small steak and remembered how he had loved his steak.

Suddenly a woman came beside me. She was blonde, slim and lovely in a soft green pantsuit. I watched as she picked up a large package of T-bones, dropped them in her basket, hesitated, and then put them back. She turned to go and once again reached for the pack of steaks.

She saw me watching her and she smiled. "My husband loves T-bones, but honestly, at these prices, I don't know."

I swallowed the emotion down my throat and met her pale blue eyes.

"My husband passed away eight days ago," I told her. Glancing at the package in her hands, I fought to control the tremble in my voice. "Buy him the steaks. And cherish every moment you have together."

She shook her head and I saw the emotion in her eyes as she placed the package in her basket and wheeled away.

I turned and pushed my cart across the length of the store to the dairy products . There I stood, trying to decide which size milk I should buy. A Quart, I finally decided and moved on to the ice cream. If nothing else, I could always fix myself an ice cream cone.

I placed the ice cream in my cart and looked down the aisle toward the front. I saw first the green suit, then recognized the pretty lady coming towards me. In her arms she carried a package. On her face was the brightest smile I had ever seen. I would swear a soft halo encircled her blonde hair as she kept walking toward me, her eyes holding mine.

As she came closer, I saw what she held and tears began misting in my eyes. "These are for you," she said and placed three beautiful long stemmed yellow roses in my arms. "When you go through the line, they will know these are paid for." She leaned over and placed a gentle kiss on my cheek, then smiled again. I wanted to tell her what she'd done, what the roses meant, but still unable to speak, I watched as she walked away as tears clouded my vision.

I looked down at the beautiful roses nestled in the green tissue wrapping and found it almost unreal. How did she know? Suddenly the answer seemed so clear. I wasn't alone.

Oh, you haven't forgotten me, have you? I whispered, with tears in my eyes. He was still with me, and she was his angel.

Every day, be thankful for what you have and who you are."

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3.19.2008

Know The Difference Between the Winners and Losers

We all love winners. We all wanted to be one. There's nothing wrong to want to be one. What will be unacceptable is to believe and strive to be losers.

Know the
The Ten Differences between a Winner and a Loser written by HEETS and learn how to become successful in life.

  1. A winner makes mistakes and says: "I was wrong." A loser says: "It wasn't my fault."
  2. A winner credits his good luck for winning even though it wasn't luck. A loser credits his bad luck for losing, but it wasn't luck.
  3. A winner works harder than a loser and has more time. A loser is always "too busy," too busy staying a failure.
  4. A winner goes through a problem. A loser goes around it.
  5. A winner shows he's sorry by making up for it. A loser says he's sorry but he does the same thing next time.
  6. A winner knows what to fight for and what to compromise on. A loser compromises on what he should not and fights for what isn't worth fighting for. Every day is a battle of life and it is very important that we are fighting for the right things and not wasting out time with trivial matters.
  7. A winner says: "I'm good, but not as good as I ought to be." A loser says,"Well, I'm not as bad as a lot of people.A loser looks down at those who've not yet achieved the position he has. A winner looks up to where he is going. A loser looks down at those who've not yet achieved the position he has.
  8. A winner respects those who are superior to him and tries to learn from them. A loser resents those who are superior to him and tries to find fault.
  9. A winner is responsible for more than his job. A loser says: "I only work here."
  10. A winner says: "There ought to be a better way of doing it." A loser says: "why change it? That's the way it's always been done."
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3.02.2008

Guides In Overcoming Insecurities

Are you insecure? Do you sometimes feel that you;re not good enough? Are you uncomfortable in a crowd? If you answered yes in one of the questions, don't despair. It is okay to feel that way.
Feeling of insecurity is a natural feeling for anybody. Even the richest, the prettiest and the smartest, in one way or another, felt insecurity.

Read this to know more about insecurity or lack of self-confidence and empower yourself now.

Some men and women tend to shy away from men and women they are
attracted to, thinking that they would be rejected right away. The
truth is that they will get rejected, unless they revise their
program completely.
We tend to feel insecure towards the opposite sex for several
reasons, mainly because of lack of self-confidence. It's all boils
down to the way we think. Some of the signs that we are insecure
about ourselves is that we tend to feel that the other person is
lying whenever we get a compliment from them, or that we think right
away that approaching an attractive person would not yield a great
experience.
These bad thoughts are what we should eliminate in order to bring
out the best of ourselves. Here are our mantras that you can say to
yourself over and over to overcome insecurities.
I won't make any situation perfect – We tend to be afraid that
everything would not turn out right if we approach someone we are
attracted to, but how would we know if we don't pursue at all? Not
everything would be perfect, but at least we can try to learn from
it. You need to take out the pressure you unnecessarily built on
yourself.
I am not shy – Shyness inhibits you to explore more about your
potential in dating. Take the risk and get to know people. You can
start by greeting your neighbors or the convenience store attendant.
Slowly build your confidence.
I created my own insecurity – Remember that most of your
insecurities have no meaning nor reason at all. They merely exist
because you let them roam around your head.
I have the power of what I think and feel – Do not let anyone or
anything control that power that only you possess. You have the
power to choose whether to feel bad or feel good about yourself. If
you want to live a good life, which would you choose?
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